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How did the quick declutter challenge 1 – cosmetics go? Did you find it difficult to do it quickly? Did you spend a lot of time making decisions about what to keep and what to let go?
Let’s start with question 1.
Set a timer. A timer can help you
- to focus on the task because there is a deadline for you to stop.
- to start because you know you only have to do the task for a short time and then it is over.
- if you can see or hear the time clicking by, it builds a sense of urgency and importance
Play Music
- Music can help people to focus by blocking out thoughts of other things on their minds.
- Make a playlist of songs that will help to make the decluttering enjoyable.
- Some people will like uptempo music to energize themselves.
- Make your playlist for a set amount of time so when the music is done so is your time for decluttering.
Now for question 2
It can be difficult to make decisions when you are worried you will make the wrong decision. Trust yourself. You make decisions all the time, what to eat, what to wear, where to live and when to exercise. Develop some questions that help you to make decisions. Here are a few examples.
- Do I need this?
- Do I have space for it?
- If I keep it will it help me to meet my goals?
- What is the worst thing that will happen if I don’t have it?
Quick declutter challenge 2 – bedroom
Let me know what else was hiding in your bedroom that you decluttered.
If you need help, let’s work together virtually to declutter your bedroom quickly, julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
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When you begin to organize your kitchen, think of dividing it into centers. Here are some suggestions.
The area with the most counter space
Use the cupboards above and below the counter as the meal preparation centre. It is the home of items needed to prepare and cook food – cutting boards, knives, bowls, graters, pots, pans, casserole dishes, strainers, etc.
The area with the smaller amount of counter space near the fridge.
The drink centre contains coffee, tea, hot chocolate, drink mixes, cups, glasses, sugar/sweetener, coffee maker, kettle, teapot, etc. Try storing your glasses and mugs in this area instead of with your plates and bowls.
Area near the dishwasher or sink
The dish centre contains dishes and cutlery and should be near the dishwasher for fast and easy unloading. Aim to store items at an age-appropriate height so children can participate without needing assistance. If you like thinking outside the box, store your dishes in the base cabinets until your children are tall enough to reach the cabinets above the counter. Some homes have a pantry. Instead of storing food try storing your plates and bowls in it. Everyone will be able to reach them and it may help to have less traffic near the food preparation and cooking areas.
Area with counter space
The baking centre contains food items and utensils specifically for baking – spices, flour, nuts, chocolate chips, spatulas, cookie sheets, casserole dishes, pie plates, cake pans, etc.
Recycling Area
Establish a recycling/garbage centre for easy collection. There are great products that fit under the kitchen sink and hold 2 or 3 containers to make recycling easy.
Paperwork area
The desk/paperwork center can be located near the telephone charging station or computer, and holds recipes, notepaper, a whiteboard or bulletin board, and pens and markers.
Miscellaneous drawer
The miscellaneous drawer contains small tools and items which you need quick access to in the kitchen – screwdriver, tape, twist ties, scissors, pen, marker, etc. Don’t let the one miscellaneous drawer turn into 2 or 3 drawers.
Determine what centers you need in your kitchen and plan your space to hold everything so it is easy to reach and use. Buy the Create an Organized Home download
In the comments let me know
How do you store your plastic food containers?
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Twitter – Facebook – Facebook group Organizing Mind and Space
Many clients will hire me to organize their laundry room. Much of the disorganization comes from not having a system to get the clothes to the laundry room, washed, dryed, folded and back to the rooms. Laundry piles up near the washer causing disorganizing. In the blog you will learn 5 steps to help you build a system that makes getting the laundry done easy.
Collection Area
Keep a central collection area for your laundry close to where people change. The main bathroom, near the bedrooms, is often a good choice. Keep three hampers – one each for light, medium and dark colours. Make sure everyone knows to empty pockets, because no one else is going to check.
Treat Stains
Keep a stain remover nearby so everyone can treat the stains on their clothing. Children may need help with the most difficult stains, like blood. Use shampoo without conditioner on grease stains. Once stains are treated, fold the clothing to prevent stain remover from touching the hamper. Remember to place clothing in the correct laundry hamper.
Make a space for folding
Have a table or space available so you can fold and pile items as they are removed from the dryer. You might have a piece of smooth wood (or cover it with a cloth) that you can place over the laundry tub to make a folding area. Make sure the floor is clean so if anything falls, it will not need to be laundered again.
Have a rack for hanging clothing
Have a place to hang up clothes – a line, door hooks or a free-standing rack.
Keep supplies handy
Establish a laundry supply shelf or cupboard. Be sure to have a variety of supplies available so you can easily handle any stain – detergent, bleach, shampoo, stain remover, and a bar of laundry soap for quick hand-washing items. Include a basin so you can conveniently soak or hand wash items.
Add your advice in the comments
What do you do to make laundry easy in your home?
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Twitter – Facebook – Facebook group Organizing Mind and Space
I had a number of questions submitted to me about how to create joy in your home. Here are my answers. I hope you enjoy them. Please send me more questions or place your thoughts in the comments about creating joy at home.
How does tidying up a home help create joy?
Tidying up so you can find what you want, when you want it, use it to accomplish your task and know where to put it away relieves, stress, tension and frustration. It also uses less energy to complete your work, leaving more energy, physical and emotional, for other parts of your life. Feeling less anxious and overwhelmed makes room in your life for happiness and joy because you have time to spend on the important things, health, relationships and personal growth.
How can you use the idea of a happiness shrine to help someone have more joy and help reduce clutter?
A “happiness shrine” or “pride shrine” in a home is a shelf/wall space/corner used to display items that serve no utilitarian purpose but to make you feel happy. I have a space in my office where I post 1 picture from some vacations with my family and a small shelf for interesting items, that remind me of my successes. This corner certainly makes me smile with many memories. People need to decide which things are significant to them by having a designated, limited, personal space for sentimental items. It allows other areas in the home to be organized purposefully reducing distracting clutter in the commonly used areas. Give each member of the home a “pride shine” area and remember what is in your shrine can change and evolve to reflect your life’s past, present and future.
How can someone organize their running shoes and workout gear in an attractive way where they are visible but don’t wind up in piles on the floor?
Exercise is one of many ways to help increase your mental wellness. People who exercise regularly tend to do so because it gives them an enormous sense of well-being. They feel more energetic throughout the day, sleep better at night, have sharper memories, and feel more relaxed and positive about themselves and their lives. The Mental Health Benefits of Exercise A study showed that people are more likely to exercise or make healthy habits if they can see their workout gear. Goals and habits are easier to accomplish if you are intentional about your plan, and set a day and time to exercise. Organize your sneakers and workout gear on a shelf so you can see them when you enter your room or open the closet. A shoe or pocket organizer hung on the inside of a door will also work well. Roll your exercise gear, shorts, tops, warm-up pants, warm-up tops, running jacket, etc and place each item in a pocket. It will make it easy to see your workout gear as well as limit the amount of gear you purchase. Don’t forget to put the shoes in one of the pockets too. A drawer may keep your gear hidden from your view but if you prefer using a drawer also put items in the drawer that you use every day so you will continue to notice your workout gear daily.
Books bring joy to many people. How can we tidy up our book collections?
Books are such a personal topic. Some people read a book once and donate it to their library while it is current and in good shape. Other people like to be reminded of the stories they have read and so keep books just to remember them. Still, other people like to have beautiful picture style books and enjoy them as entertainment, like watching a movie. Lastly, people like them as reference books on topics they have studied or want to learn about. Think about why you have books and if they still serve you well. Perhaps you can check out books from the library, download books, share books or trade books to reduce the number of books you own but still be able to enjoy them. If you have more books than you can display on shelves in your home, I think you have too many. Books that are kept in boxes can’t be used, enjoyed or experienced. Reducing the clutter of owning boxes of books, reduces the time and energy spent on thinking and worrying about what to do with them. It frees up time to spend on the things that are important to you now and it frees up space.
How does donating unused or unwanted items help to create its own sense of joy?
Donating unused or unwanted items creates a sense of helping others. Your items can be used to help raise money for community causes, give to charities to help people, and develop relationships with organizations to make the world a better place for everyone. We are so privileged to have enough to share with others. Your sense of joy may come from protecting the environment by keeping useful items out of landfills, by sharing your wealth to support people and projects locally or globally, and by being an example for others to follow. Joy comes in many forms.
Let me know in the comments how you bring joy into your home.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, virtually over Zoom. She enjoys working with her clients to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She reduces clutter, streamlines processes and manages time to help her clients be more effective in reaching their goals. Julie can coach you to break-free of the physical or emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
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Do you have a home or office that is creating anxiety and a feeling of stress and overwhelm? You know you want to change the situation. With a little knowledge, help and support you could start to feel happy in your home and organized in your office. I have been offering virtual organizing sessions for 10 years, this may be the year for you to try it.
Who would use virtual organizing services?
For clients who:
- wish to do the “hands-on “organizing themselves
- are uncertain about someone coming into their home,
- want a cost-effective way to get organized
- need to manage their organizing appointments to fit a complex schedule
- need support to stay focused on the project
- need accountability to help them reach their goals
Why would I offer this service?
Virtual organizing allows me to:
- to provide support to my clients through prearranged online meetings
- have clients all around the world
- continue to work with clients who moved away
- do organizing while coaching, teaching, supporting and mentoring clients
What would a virtual organizing session look like
There are probably as many ways to do virtual organizing as there are organizers. Here are my 4 formats.
A series of mini sessions.
This format starts with a one-hour session to establish the goals the clients want to achieve and is followed up with a series of 30-minute mini sessions to set steps to follow to complete the job.
Be there with you
This format is for clients who don’t like to work alone. I am with you on my computer helping you to:
- know what to do next,
- make decisions about what to keep and what to donate and
- set up organizing systems to store your stuff.
Complete Plan
This format is for the client who wants to work by themselves on their schedule. After you contact me, I set up a 1-2 hour Zoom call and you show me the room you want to get organized. I develop a customized organizing plan that you implement. If you have questions we can set up a support call to:
- solve problems,
- clarify the next step,
- receive storage suggestions.
- receive donation and recycling information
- check in with you while you are working
Develop Routines
A lot of organizing and maintaining a home, office or room is establishing routines and systems. We work together to set up step-by-step systems.
These are the A, B, C, D’s of virtual organizing
For more detailed information check Virtual Organizing Services on my website
Virtual organizing allows an organizer to support your organizing projects by providing planning, coaching and mentoring. Share on X
To book a complimentary 30 minute virtual assessment use this link or contact me directly at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of learning how you think and feel about your items to help you to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Twitter – Facebook – Facebook group Organizing Mind and Space
My guest blogger this month is Melissa Knowles a passionate writer and expert in de-cluttering sentimental items. With a background in psychology and a love for preserving memories, she combines her knowledge to help readers cherish their past without the chaos. When not writing, Melissa enjoys hiking and capturing the beauty of nature through her photography.
Often, organizing sentimental items presents a unique challenge. These treasures, rich with personal history and emotions, can quickly accumulate, leading to a cluttered space that overshadows their proper value. The key lies in striking a balance between holding onto those precious memories and maintaining a tidy, peaceful living area. We will address this issue, guiding you through practical strategies to preserve memories without clutter. Whether you’re dealing with a box full of old photographs, heirlooms passed down through generations, or souvenirs from travels, we’ll provide insights on managing these items thoughtfully.
Understanding sentimental value
What makes an item sentimental varies considerably from person to person. It could be a family antique, a trip souvenir, or a simple note, each carrying its own story and emotional weight. These items connect us to memories of important people or events, making them invaluable. The emotional attachment to these keepsakes is deep-rooted, often evoking a sense of nostalgia, joy, pain or comfort. However, objectively evaluating their sentimental value is crucial to avoid clutter. It involves asking yourself hard questions about each item’s significance and role. Does it bring joy or merely take up space? Is its emotional significance still powerful, or has it faded over time? How many items do you need to remember the event or person? Are there other ways to keep the memory alive without holding onto a physical item? Do these items hold you in the past and letting go of them will help you to move forward with your life? Answering these questions can help distinguish between valuable keepsakes and mere clutter, enabling a healthier, more organized living space.
The art of selective keeping
The art of selective keeping is about making conscious choices on what to hold onto and what to release. Being selective ensures that each kept item truly resonates with personal significance, creating a decluttered and organized space. Here’s how you can determine what’s worth keeping:
- Emotional Connection: Does the item evoke positive emotions? Keep those that bring joy or comfort.
- Uniqueness: Prioritize items that cannot be replaced or replicated, like handmade gifts or family heirlooms.
- Usage: Consider if the item is something you use or enjoy regularly. Practicality can be a form of sentimentality.
- Condition: Keep items in good condition, as damaged goods often contribute to clutter.
Creative display options
Creatively displaying sentimental items can transform them from clutter to charming decor elements. These treasures can add a personal touch to your living space, telling your unique story. Create a themed gallery wall where photos, souvenirs, and artworks can narrate a cohesive story. Shadow boxes are another excellent option, perfect for showcasing smaller items with depth and protection.
Incorporating keepsakes into functional decor is both artistic and practical. A vintage quilt, for example, could serve as a striking wall hanging or a cozy throw. Similarly, you can use heirloom dishes for special occasions or display them in a glass cabinet, adding elegance and history to your dining area. Lastly, arranging items in groups of three or five can create a balanced, visually appealing display. This method, known as the ‘Rule of Odds,’ suggests that an odd number of items are more effective at capturing attention and adding visual interest.
Create a small personal area in your home office, bedroom or kitchen to display a few times on a shelf and wall that represent the memories that are most precious in your life. As you work in that space these memories will help you to reflect on the past and bring a sense of gratitude that your life is full of wonderful things and experiences motivating you to become the person you want to be. As you grow and your life evolves change the items that are on display. Life is not static.
Digitize to declutter
Digital preservation saves space, protects from degradation, and allows easy sharing. Here’s a guide to digitizing photos and documents:
- Select the Right Equipment: Use a scanner or a high-quality camera to capture clear images of your items.
- Organize Before Scanning: Sort items by categories, like dates or events, for more manageable digital filing.
- Scan at High Resolution: Ensure scanned images are high quality to preserve details. Use a resolution of 300 dpi (dots per inch).
- Edit and Enhance: Use photo editing software to adjust brightness, contrast, or remove blemishes.
For digital storage, consider virtual organizers and these tools:
- Cloud Storage Services: Options like Google Drive, Dropbox, or iCloud offer secure and accessible storage solutions.
- Online Photo Services: Websites like Flickr or SmugMug provide dedicated photo storage with organizing features.
- Document Management Software: Ideal for organizing digital copies of important documents, with added features like tagging and search functions.
Themed memory boxes
Memory boxes are a delightful and organized way to preserve special memories. They are containers where you can store various keepsakes relating to a particular theme, event, person, or period. Organizing events like weddings, vacations, or significant birthdays allows you to group related items, creating a concentrated snapshot of that time. Yearly boxes are another option. They are a time capsule for all the notable happenings and small joys each year.
For proper storage and labelling of these boxes:
- Choose the Right Box: Opt for durable boxes. To truly protect the contents from damage, quality materials can help. If you live in a cold area like Toronto, you don’t want precious things to get damaged due to the changing weather. Doing this will make buying packing supplies in Toronto a good investment.
- Keep Them Accessible but Safe: Store the boxes in a dry, cool place where you can easily reach them.
- Document the Contents: Make a list of what’s inside each box, especially those containing numerous or small items
The power of repurposing
Repurposing sentimental items is a creative way to preserve memories without clutter. This approach allows us to honour the past while adapting to current needs and spaces. For instance, a beloved but worn dress can find new life as a stylish cushion cover, adding a personal touch to your home decor. Similarly, old concert t-shirts, often tucked away in drawers, can be transformed into a unique quilt, combining nostalgia with everyday usefulness.
Other examples include:
- Turning old letters or recipes into framed artwork for your kitchen or living area.
- Repurposing children’s artwork into coasters or magnets, keeping their creativity on display.
- Converting a collection of travel postcards into a collage for a coffee table or a wall hanging.
Find a balance between preserving these items’ sentimental value and adapting them into practical, usable objects.
Preserve memories without clutter by sharing and donating
Sharing sentimental items with family and friends can be a touching experience, strengthening bonds and preserving unique memories while creating an organized home at the same time. It’s about passing on a piece of history and personal story, allowing others to cherish and add to the legacy of these items. For example, giving a cherished book to a friend who loves reading or passing down a vintage jewelry piece to a family member can extend the life and stories of these items. Donating items, especially those with historical or educational value, is another fulfilling option. Museums, schools, or historical societies often welcome items that contribute to their collections and educational programs.
Conclusion
This guide has provided actionable tips on how to preserve memories without clutter. We explored the essence of sentimental value, the art of selective keeping, and creative ways to display cherished items. The core message is clear: preserving memories does not require a compromise on living in a clutter-free space. It’s about making thoughtful decisions that honour your past and current lifestyle. With these strategies, you will transform your home into a space that beautifully reflects your memories and keeps them alive without clutter.
Share in the comments how you decide which sentimental items to keep and which ones to pass along.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Twitter – Facebook – Facebook group Organizing Mind and Space
From now until January there are many celebrations. During the holiday season expectations are raised. The food needs to be perfect, the gift needs to be thoughtfully purchased, the house needs to be tastefully decorated, and everyone needs to be happy all the time. Record your expectations for the season. Everything you can think of. Look through your list and decide on a plan that makes each expectation manageable for you. If your expectations align with practicality, this holiday will be less stressful and more fun.
Planning Food
Could you:
Make a simple Holiday meal.
- Cook ahead of time and freeze the food
- Plan a potluck with everyone contributing
- Buy your holiday baking
- Simplify your menu, prepare fewer items
Gift Giving
Gift Giving
Could you:
- Reduce the number of people you buy for
- Draw names so everyone gets one gift
- Set a price limit on the value of the gift
- Plan an experience instead of buying a gift: go to a play, go out for dinner, and go to a movie
If your expectations align with practicality, holidays will be less stressful and more fun. Share on X
Decorating
Could you:
Use flowers to decorate.
- Put out fewer items
- Use more oversized items to make the space look decorated instead of using lots of small items
- Decorate with flowers; you don’t have to pack them away when the season is over
Be Happy
Be Happy
Could you:
Spend time together doing things you enjoy
- Plan your schedule so you don’t get over tired
- Plan downtime so each member of the group can spend time alone
- Plan things you like to do, not have to do
- Plan to exercise and get fresh air
Can you learn to ask for help and accept help?
Can you learn to ask for help and accept help?
Virtual organizing allows me to support your organizing projects by providing planning, coaching and mentoring while both remaining safely at home Book a 30-minute complimentary virtual organizing assessment. https://mindoverclutter.as.me/virtualorganizingassessment
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home and office. She guides and supports you in managing your time. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Twitter – Facebook – Facebook group Organizing Mind and Space
My guest blogger is Lise Fitzsimmons a Registered Psychotherapist. Visit her website lise fitzsimmons therapy.
In the chaotic whirlwind of our modern lives, where demands pull us in countless directions and obligations seem never-ending, it’s all too easy to feel overwhelmed and stretched thin. This is where the art of setting boundaries comes into play, serving as a powerful tool for regaining control, fostering balance, and reclaiming precious time and energy. Whether it’s in your personal relationships, work environment, or daily routines, establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries can be the key to achieving not only greater organization but also enhanced well-being and fulfillment. Enjoy this journey of self-discovery and empowerment as you delve into the profound importance of setting boundaries to transform your life.
What are boundaries:
- Boundaries are rules or guidelines that tell others how we want to be treated
- It’s what is acceptable and what is not
- It sets acceptable limits
Some potential reasons you have trouble setting boundaries:
- you fear being mean
- you fear being rude
- you’re a people pleaser
- you’re anxious about future interactions after a boundary has been set
- you feel powerless
- you get your value from helping others
- you have no clue where to start
Why you want to learn how to set boundaries:
- you’re afraid to say no and don’t want to disappoint people
- you don’t speak up when you want something or when you’re being mistreated
- you frequently feel angry, resentful or overwhelmed
- you don’t communicate your expectations to others
- you don’t make time for self-care
- you feel guilty when you set limits or do things for yourself
- you make commitments that you later regret
- you’re frequently overscheduled, rushed, or tired
- you do things out of obligation rather than because you want to
- you don’t spend enough quality time with people you care about
- you don’t have a strong sense of who you are and what your values, interests, and goals are
- you’re tuned in to how other people feel, but you don’t always know how you feel
- you accept blame for things you didn’t do or couldn’t control
- you enable others to be irresponsible by doing things for them that they can do for themselves
- Relationships work best when we’re clear about expectations and needs.
- Without boundaries, people take advantage of you because you haven’t set limits about how you want to be treated
The benefits of setting healthy boundaries:
- more compassion
- greater assertiveness
- your needs are met
- less anger and resentment
- time and energy to do things that nourish you and bring you joy
- less conflict in relationships
- improved communication
- greater self-esteem
- less anxiety and stress
- increased confidence
- feeling understood and accepted by friends and family
If you are feeling guilty about setting boundaries – here are some reminders:
- it’s healthy for you to have boundaries
- other people have boundaries you respect
- setting boundaries is a sign of a healthy relationship
- if boundaries ruin the relationship, it was on the cusp of ending anyway
Common ways people respond when you share your boundaries:
- pushback
- test your limits
- ignoring
- rationalizing and questioning
- defensiveness
- ghosting
- silent treatment
- acceptance
How to set a boundary:
- Step 1 – communicate your needs. Be clear. Be gracious.
- Step 2 – uphold what you communicate through your behaviour – follow through
- boundaries are worthless if you don’t provide feedback and consequences
Taking care of yourself looks like this:
- setting manageable expectations around caring and being present for others
- maintaining your mental health
- operating in your role as child instead of parent to your parents
- operating in your role as sibling instead of parent to your siblings
- asking for what you need
- spending holidays doing things that you enjoy
- giving people the space to care for themselves
- figuring out who you are separately from what you were made to believe about yourself
- talking about feelings
- allowing yourself to feel pleasure
- being gentle with yourself
Resources
- Glover Tawwab, Nedra. 2021. Set Boundaries, Find Peace
- Martin, Sharon.2021. The Better Boundaries Workbook
Setting boundaries is a crucial skill that enables individuals to establish limits and define their personal space, both in relationships and daily life. These boundaries serve as a protective shield, safeguarding mental and emotional well-being while promoting healthier interactions. By clearly articulating what is acceptable and what isn’t, setting boundaries fosters self-respect and respect from others, allowing individuals to prioritize their needs, reduce stress, and create a more organized and balanced existence. It is a fundamental tool for personal growth and improved quality of life.
Share your experiences in the comments about setting boundaries in your life.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Twitter – Facebook – Facebook group Organizing Mind and Space
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Living in a small apartment has many challenges. The biggest is the lack of space. Many people wind up in homes that simply aren’t large enough to house all their possessions.
Fortunately, it turns out that there are numerous strategies you can use to increase the amount of space you have available. In this post, you’ll find all sorts of ways to expand the space available to you, even if you live in a studio (or something even smaller)
Use Outdoor Space
If your apartment has any outdoor space, such as a balcony or shared shed, then use it. The more outdoor equipment you can keep outside, the less it will clutter up your home. You can purchase water tight chests to protect your items from damage and keep them safe.
You’ll notice that outdoor items and tools are often the bulkiest possessions you own. While you can stuff plenty of clothes into a drawer, rigid toolboxes, and bicycles are hard to keep out of the way.
Use Multi-Functional Furniture
Another tip is to use multifunctional furniture. Doubling up saves space and reduces the need for duplication. Many pieces of furniture can be used to store your stuff, coffee tables that lift up with storage below, use a cabinet instead of a table or bench a footstool where the top lifts off to provide storage. If you have a two-bedroom apartment, get a sofa bed. You can use it as seating until guests come over, at which point you can transform it into a bed.
Add More Vertical Storage
You could also try adding more vertical storage to your apartment to increase the space you have available. Adding more vertical storage space is pretty easy. We recommend concentrating it in one room, like the bedroom, allowing you to declutter other parts of your space. When possible have the bookcases, cupboards or shelves the same colour as the wall. When they blend into the wall the room looks larger since you don’t notice the furniture. If they are a contrasting colour to your walls you notice the large pieces of furniture and the room looks smaller. Focus on providing additional vertical storage in less noticeable places like above doors or adding an extra shelf in a closet. There are many over the door organizing gadgets that provide storage on the back of doors.
Leverage Out-Of-Home Storage Wisely
Even with the best efforts in the world, you sometimes still run out of space in an apartment, especially if you own sizable possessions, like a grand piano. The most cost effective expense might be renting a storage unit. Having a small apartment with a lower rent and a self self storage unit may meet your budget better than paying more for a larger apartment. Units provide space for your belongings, enabling you to free up room in your house to easily access the things you use regularly. Decide what is important to keep and store and donate the rest. You want to rent the smallest unit possible. Organize it so you can easily access your stuff.
Organize Your Small Kitchen
Invest your time in organizing your small kitchen. These kitchens can be challenging to manage and significantly easier to take care of and use when you adopt the proper techniques.
For example:
- Use shelf risers and hooks to increase storage options
- Consider placing magnetic racks on the walls or under the cabinets
- Remove any unnecessary appliances from the countertops and store them in the cupboards
- Use foldable and stackable kitchenware
Many cookware brands now offer two-piece sets that meet 99% of your cooking needs. Reducing your cookware can free up space for other items you might want to use more often. If you have some appliances you use seasonally, barbecue, crockpot, dehydrator, deep fryer put them in less accessible places and make room for the items you use most in that season. As seasons change rearrange the storage of your small appliances.
If you have space put in a small island to have more counter space and storage space. Buy one that you can sit around and use instead of a table. If it has wheels even better, so you can move it around as needed.
Add Curtain Dividers
You might also consider adding curtain dividers to your space to make it more flexible. Having the ability to create new rooms is a great way to compensate for a lack of space and make your apartment more flexible. There are styles you can mount on the ceiling and roll down so that when you are not using it you don’t see it. You can mount a rod and hang the curtain as needed. The curtain may double as a bedspread so you don’t need to find a place to store it.
For instance, you invite guests over but don’t have a spare bedroom for them. Adding curtain dividers to the living area is an excellent way to provide them with the privacy they want.
Be More Minimalist
You can also try living a more minimalist lifestyle if the above options don’t appeal to you. Reducing the number of possessions you own can be an excellent way to free up space and enjoy your living conditions more.
Being minimalist doesn’t necessarily mean you need to adopt a Spartan approach or buy cheap items for the home. Instead, it means investing in quality belongings you will use regularly, and reducing anything that doesn’t fit into your routine or priorities.
As you’re deciding what you can live without you may want to store it somewhere else. As you start to enjoy having less to take care of, organize and clean you can start to donate items. Living well in the space you have is the best way to enjoy your life.
Here are some of the ways you can get more space in your apartment with ease.
Share in the comments your favourite way to make more storage space.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
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The benefits of having a bedroom free of clutter are obvious to see. It is easier to move in the room without tripping on items left on the floor. You can find things on your night table without bumping other items over. Have you thought about how a clutter free bedroom might make you feel? You will feel as though you have a clearer mind when you are in that room, and that might help you unwind and sleep more effectively. When it is less cluttered, you might enjoy being there more and it can become a sacred place. Fortunately, it’s relatively easy to gain a clutter-free bedroom, so let’s take a look at four steps you might not have thought of as a way to achieve that.
Match The Bed To The Room
Have you seen a bedroom with a bed and furniture that takes up all the space so that it is difficult to move around the room? Did you ever think the cluttered feeling could be caused by the size of your bed? Try to match the bed to the room size. A less crowded room is easier to keep clean and organized. When you have a huge bed, one problem is that you might struggle to feel relaxed in that room with no place to move. You might need to visit a mattress store in your area to find better options for your space. Visually your room will look bigger, less crowded and more inviting. You will feel less anxious entering the room and have less stress. Practically it will be easier to get things out, put them away and make your bed every day.
Store Items Under The Bed
This is a simple thing you can do which will make your bedroom less cluttered and visibly cleaner. Storing items under the bed is something that is not always possible – for instance, if you have a divan base that almost touches the floor. Captain’s beds are built with drawers under the bed for storage. Some beds have a base that is hinged to create a storage area in the bed frame. You can create storage under your bed by using bed risers to lift the bed up. When there is space under the bed, make use of it. It’s amazing how this space can be used so you have more room in your closets or dressers.
Minimize Wall Decorations
It can be tempting to go all out and try to decorate your bedroom in a way that is beautiful. You might find it quite beneficial to not go overboard here. In fact, you’ll find that keeping wall decorations to a minimum will lead to a space that has less visual clutter and a much clearer appearance. Put items on the wall that have a calming effect so it is easier to relax and clear your mind as you get ready to sleep.
Store Things Elsewhere
Finally, there is something to be said about not letting the bedroom become a general dumping ground for random items around the home. It is one of the most important rooms in the home and one that you need to care for and respect. It is a space where you rejuvenate your mind and regenerate your body for the next day. It is easy at the end of a tiring day to bring things into the bedroom, put them down and say you’ll put them away tomorrow. Take the extra minute and put them away so you don’t have a constant reminder of an unfinished task when you are trying to go to sleep. Don’t end up with lots of random items cluttering up your restful space.
Usually, I talk about the process of decluttering a room to have less unwanted stuff. These 4 steps approach making a bedroom clutter-free in a different way, through the thoughtful selection of furniture, decoration and storage. They also help to create a room with less visual clutter and mental clutter.
In the comments share how you make your bedroom clutter-free.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices,oachng you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Contact her at julie@mindoverclutter.ca
Twitter – Facebook – Facebook group Organizing Mind and Space
