Great ideas for downsizing, moving or moving a family member
Whether you are moving from a house to an apartment, retirement home or you have already done this but still have abundance in your home and want to scale down even more understanding the where, why, who how and what can make the decisions easier.
Where does all the stuff come from?
It may not even be your stuff. Some of you have things from your parents downsizing that ended up at your house because your Mom and Dad didn’t want to give it away but didn’t have room, so out of respect to your parents you stored it at your house. Perhaps your children have moved out but their stuff hasn’t.
Why do we keep so much?
During the Depression, we learned to keep an iron grip on anything that might still have some good in it. Then we were encouraged to buy, buy, and buy and to acquire every luxury we could afford. Next, items began to be manufactured so cheaply that when you couldn’t find it you bought another. The Reagan years were about visible consumption. We had TV shows like The Lifestyles Of The Rich and Famous. We started competing with millionaires. Perhaps you have spent 40 years accumulating and now you are spending time getting rid of excess.
Who is downsizing?
The first thing is for YOU to make the decision that it is necessary to do it. Not because your spouse or your sister or friend says you should. Just like losing weight or quitting smoking, it has to be your decision otherwise you won’t be successful. It is a hard process not only because it can be very physical but there are a lot of emotions that go with it and it can be a long process. Our culture seems to think that building up is inherently better than scaling down. Fewer luxuries make you appear to be a less successful person. The idea that some people judge your worth by the things you own, rather than by your personality and achievements can stop you from downsizing. It can be life changing to let go of your things. When the process is over, you may feel
less stressed,
sleep better,
have more time to be with family, grandchildren or even travel.
Scaling down does not mean renouncing your own style. It means stripping away things that no longer fit or do not contribute to making your lifestyle easier. You want to be able to find the things you need and love.
How? Make a Plan
Once you have made your decision to downsize or streamline before you begin the process it is important to know what you want as the outcome and set a goal of what you ultimately want it to look like. If you’re moving – you need to know room sizes and what are the absolute must have large items like a bed, couches, dressers, antiques etc. Write it all down. Once you know what you want, and what it should look like and visualize the end product then you start to go through your things. It will help make the decisions easier because you can see if it will fit your plan.
What is stopping you?
If you are the type of person who has a hard time getting rid of things, try to understand why it is difficult for you.
Are you sentimental?
Do you like to be in control?
Is it about pride?
Do you hate making decisions?
Is it too painful to revisit certain parts of your life?
Being honest with yourself makes the process easier.
When?
Schedule time to do it when you are not rushed and do one room, box or corner. Give yourself a set amount of time, if you feel you want to continue then great, but don’t become overwhelmed.
Here are some steps you can take to tackle the job
Set up a few boxes or bins and label them. Charity, family, garbage, recycle, keep.
While sorting, group like with like. Put all your books together, electronics, collections, paper etc.
At the end of the session
take the donated items to the front door or even better right out to your car so that you will drop them off
put the recycling out
put the garbage out
move items that you are returning to other people close to the door
When deciding whether you should give it away, go back to your plan and see if it,
will fit into your space
will go with your new design or décor.
If not donate.
After grouping all the items you can then see how much you really have and you may need to donate some more items.
Collections and Antiques
The hardest thing for people to let go of are their collections and antiques especially, if they belonged to a parent or a loved one that has passed. Ask yourself:
Do you have room for them?
If they end up in storage or in a box how treasured are they?
Could you just keep one or two and give away the rest?
Can you take pictures of them?
Do some research to see if they are valuable and have someone sell them on eBay for you or contact an antique dealer.
If you don’t have room for it give it to a family member that has the same passion for collecting so they can enjoy it and you can visit. Invite people over for brunch. After the meal show them the items you are giving away and let them select things that have meaning for them.
Staying surrounded by things that remind you of the past or which you respond to predictably may prevent you from moving ahead with your life. Remember they are just things you will still have the memories. After you have completed downsizing you will end up with a beautiful home, filled only with what you need and love, that uses every inch of space the way you want. You will have control over your environment and freedom from chaos.
Need help with downsizing, contact Mind over Clutter for a complimentary 30-minute chat on Zoom.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Clothes that are old and out of style are hard to donate so when you no longer want to have them in your closet make a plan so they can be loved by someone else.
1. Adopt a family
If you have children sort their clothes at the start of each season and put the clothes that no longer fit in a box or bag. You may find it easier to put clothes that no longer fit into the donation box or bag right after they come out of the dryer. Make a connection with a family that has children a year or two younger than your children and give them the box of clothes at the beginning of each season. This helps both families to know what clothes they have and what they need to buy and you don’t need to figure out where to donate them because they go to the same family every season.
2. Selling
There are many consignment stores that sell clothing. You can find them online. Each store will have its own niche market. Contact them to see if they want high-end clothing, teenage clothes, baby apparel etc.
Clothing can be sold through consignment stores
3. Theatres
If you have unusual pieces of clothing like a nurse’s cape, old-fashioned outfits or accessories take them to your local little theatre group. They may be able to use them in their productions. It would help the theatre company to save money on their costumes.
Vintage and unusual items can be donated to theatres
4. Clothing Drives
Sometimes communities have special clothing drives. You may find that formal wear can be donated to groups collecting clothing for proms. In the late fall, there may be a winter coat and boot drive for homeless people. Running shoes can be donated at some running stores and they donate them to organizations that send the shoes overseas.
5. Shelters
Clothing can be donated to women’s and men’s shelters as well as thrift stores in your community.
6. Textile Recycling
For clothing that is too old, stained or ripped google textile recycling. There are businesses that recycle fabric, leather, bedding and clothing.
Where do you donate clothing that you no longer wear?
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of physical activity to reduce clutter, in your home and office. She guides and supports you in managing your time. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Yard sales are an excellent way to meet people, make some money and have fun. There are many ways to organize a yard sale. Timing of the sale is important to the success of the sale. You need to be flexible about pricing if you want to have less stuff at the end of the day. Let’s start with the easiest way to prepare for a yard sale.
This way takes less time and energy to set up.
Get a number of boxes or bins to collect your items. Mark each container with a price $1.00 $2:00 $0.25 $0.50 $5.00 etc. As you are collecting your items for the sale decide how much you will sell the item for and put the objects of the same price into the same box. You are pricing items as you sort them so there is less work to do later. Using boxes means you don’t need to price every item individually with a sticker. Many charities will not take items leftover from a yard sale. Part of the reason is they would need to remove all of the stickers.
Have separate display areas /tables for each price grouping. Place a sign on the front of each of the tables explaining everything on this table costs _______. You are finished and ready to have a great day.
This way will help you to have less stuff at the end of the day
Group your items into batches. For example a set of dishes, all the hand tools, groups of 10 books, baby clothing of the same size, CDs DVDs. The person needs to buy the entire batch not just part of it. This way helps you to move more items on each purchase. They buy 10 CDs for $5.00 instead of 1 for $0.50. Place batches of items in boxes or see-through bags.
This way makes sure you get the correct price for the item
If you want to use tags the easiest way is to:
use one tag colour per price group.
red for $10.00, blue for $5.00 etc.
place a colour-coded sticker on each item and when the person buys it, you know exactly what to charge.
Make a sign explaining that each colour represents a specific price
If you want to do more work you can price items individually.
Place a sticker on the item and write on it the cost of the item.
This is good for large items that will be priced higher.
In special circumstances, tags are very helpful if:
the garage sale is for multiple families you can assign each group their own colour and you know which cash box to put the money in.
multiple family members are selling items at the same sale you can assign each person their own colour and you know which cash box to put the money in.
You will need to remove the stickers after the sale before you can donate items.
How much should it sell for?
Pricing
If your goal is to sell stuff so you have less at the end of day price items:
50% of the original price for brand new or barely used items
25% – 30% of the original price for the older items
You can always ask them to make you an offer. You might get more than you expected or less.
If you have more expensive items to sell do your research to determine a fair price for the article.
Sometimes a yard sale seems like a great way to make money. Make sure you are the type of person who likes to barter and is not offended when people tell you that something is not worth the value you have placed on it.
If you will be offended and not make a sale, a yard sale is not for you.
To ensure you get the sale by having change.
Make sure to never leave the money unattended. Keep the money in a waist pouch so it can’t be stolen.
Change
have $25 in change
$20 in $1, $4 in quarters, $1 in dimes and nickels
If you don’t have change people will not buy from you.
Timeline for preparing for a yard sale
It takes time to set up and clean up from a yard sale.
sort, clean, price 1 – 2 days
advertising 2 hrs
arrange and display wares 4 hrs
get change 1 hr
tag sale itself 1 or 2 days
take unsold items to charity 3 hrs
Advertising
Advertising is a big part of the success of the sale. There are lots of Facebook sites, Kijiji and Craigslist where you can advertise for free. You may also have a local paper where you can place an ad. Put up signs to let people know where the yard sale is located especially if you are not on welled travelled streets with lots of cars and foot traffic.
Pick your date wisely. Spring and fall are the best times of the year. Long weekends are times when people travel. Weekends are usually better than weekdays. If you can do it with a number of families from your street at the same time you will get better results.
Is a Yard Sale for You?
Yard sales can be a fun way to get rid of your clutter, make some money and meet people if the weather is good. If you feel you don’t have the time, energy, a good location, great items for sale or don’t like bartering you may want to donate your items to a charity and spend the day doing something else.
How will you organize your yard sale? Maybe I didn’t mention your favourite way. Either way, leave me a comment.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
For children of parents who hoard, the mess remains after their parents pass away.
Newsweek by Hannah R Buchdahl
“Greg Martin wasn’t sure what to expect when his mother died last May, forcing him to return to his childhood home for the first time in nearly 18 years. The house, located on a pleasant block in San Diego, had always been cluttered, but now it was virtually uninhabitable. “There were piles as tall as me, six feet or so,” Greg said. “Where there used to be floor, there were trails—a foot and a half high, so you’d be walking on stuff.” Greg was forced to navigate through piles of magazines, papers, and books, plastic bags filled with thrift-store purchases, expired medicine bottles and literally tons of clothes. The only “living space” was a small pocket by the front door, where his mother, a colorful and fiercely independent woman, had collapsed shortly before her death at the age of 83. Greg, who has taken a leave of absence from his job, expected that cleaning out the house would take six months. It’s now been eight—and counting.”
Relatives are forced to put grief on the back burner and the emotions that surface are usually anger, frustration, guilt and depression.
Books
This book can help you to better understand hoarding even if you are not a professional organizer.
Everything A Professional Organizer Needs to Know About Hoarding by Judith Kolberg
Clutter Scale
It can help to get information so you better understand the situation. You can download a clutter scale at https://www.challengingdisorganization.org/clutter-hoarding-scale-
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She enjoys working with her clients to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She reduces clutter, streamlines processes and manages time to help her clients be more effective in reaching their goals. Julie can coach you to break-free of the physical or emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms.
Most of us keep more than we will ever need. This costs valuable storage space, makes retrieval of the items we actually need more difficult and adds to the stress of daily living. The famous Japanese organizer Marie Kondo tells you to ask if the object sparks joy for you. If it does keep it, if not donate it. Sometimes that question doesn’t solve the dilemma if you should keep something or donate it. The following questions might be more helpful when you ‘re making those decisions.
For Paper:
Are there any tax or legal reasons for keeping this?
Can I easily get a copy elsewhere?
Does someone else have this information?
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Can I identify a situation in which I would ever refer to this information?
Is it still relevant to my life?
What are the implications if I didn’t have this?
Shred papers that contain personal information.
For belongings:
Is it out of style, the wrong size or colour or mismatched?
Does it still work? Do I have all the parts?
When was the last time I used this item and when would I need to use it in the foreseeable future?
If it is something I use rarely, could I borrow one from someone else?
Do I use it often enough to make it worth the cost to store it?
Do I have more than one? Do I need more than one?
Has the collection outgrown the space or the container originally allocated to storing it? Has the collector outgrown the collection?
Is it the best of the best?
Swedish Death Cleaning
A third way to decide what to keep and what to donate is conveyed in the Swedish Death Cleaning method. Ask yourself:
If you died tomorrow, your loved ones would have to deal with everything you left behind. What would they really want to see left?
Give yourself permission to let go of things. Don’t let the fear of making a mistake cause you to keep things you don’t need, love or use.
Tell us how you decide what to keep and what to let go
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices,coaching you virtually using Zoom. She enjoys working with her clients to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She reduces clutter, streamlines processes and manages time to help her clients be more effective in reaching their goals. Julie can coach you to break-free of the physical or emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She enjoys working with her clients to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She reduces clutter, streamlines processes and manages time to help her clients be more effective in reaching their goals. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
If you are looking for locations to recycle your computers, TV, printers, fax machines, etc., this website will help you find a location near you.
Highlight Consumer/Retailers then click on Recycle your electronic
Go to the bottom of the page and type in the name of your city in Ontario and it will give you a list of locations
Books
If you have books you would like to donate, libraries and used bookstores may take them. There is a new organization that is able to put books into prisons. It is called Books to Bars. It is dedicated to promoting literacy, creativity and functionality in correctional facilities.
Clothing
Clothing can be donated to women’s shelters as well as Salvation Army, Value Village, and New Horizons Store on James St, Hamilton ON. There is a children’s store called Once Apon a Child and a teen and young adult store called Plato located at Guelph Line and Upper Middle Road, Burlington ON. They are not consignment stores. You bring in your clothes and they buy them (what they want) on the spot and give you the money right away.
Building Supplies
Habitat for Humanity Restores will take building supplies. Call ahead to see if they need the items that you wish to donate.
Antique Stores
Some antique stores will take window frames, furniture etc. I have an artist who is looking for antique items to use in her craft business.
Check out this website to learn locations to drop off your corrosive, flammable, explosive and toxic items.
Single Use Batteries
Rechargeable batteries can be dropped off with your electronics but they will not take single use batteries. Try contacting your local stores to see if there is a collection depot for single use batteries.
Please go to www.mindoverclutter.ca and click on the links page for more ideas about recycling and donating good used items. If you have any questions or other great recycling and donating ideas click on the contact page, I’d love to hear from you.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
CBC has a great article about how companies help charities and are able to make a profit for their business. Click the link to learn more about the business of donations.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of teaching to reduce clutter, in your home, office, mind and time. She guides and supports you to be accountable for your time, to complete projects and to reach your goals. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
When you are sorting through your items, unused items may need to go to the garbage, recycling or can be re-purposed. Finding a new life for your things might save you money.
A pegboard can make a great place to hang jewellery or medals. Paint it the same colour as the wall. If you prefer decorate it and make it a piece of artwork to hold your items.
Use a pegboard to hang jewellery or medals
A magazine holder can be used on a shelf, standing up or lying down to hold paper products in your kitchen, wax paper, baggies, parchment paper, plastic wrap etc.
Muffin tins can be used to hold paint
Muffin tins can hold paint for those touch up jobs around the house.
Egg cartons are good for jewellery or small craft items, beads, “googly eyes”, stickers, and glitter. It also makes a good desk drawer organizer for tacks, paper clips, binder clips, keys, etc
Plastic containers from fruit, vegetables, take-out food, and baby wipes can be used to hold markers, pencil crayons and pens
Dressers make great entryway storage places. Paint or decorate it to match your entryway and then use the drawers to store, keys, sunglasses, sunscreen, scarves, mitts, hats, baseball caps etc.
Use a dresser in your entryway to provide more storage
Icing containers. If you buy icing in the grocery store they are great containers for storing pens and pencils on your desk. Once the label is removed it is a beautiful white container.
Cleaning Caddy can be used to hold art supplies. Use the icing containers to hold crayons, rulers, pencils, stamps, and glitter glue. Add scissors, glue, tape, and stapler and you can take your art supplies anywhere.
Use a cleaning caddy to hold art supplies
Laundry hampers can be used to store extra pillows or blankets. It is a great way to keep them neat, clean and out of the way until they are needed for company, watching TV, or lying by the fireplace.
Picture frames can be turned into chalkboards, whiteboards or magnetic boards by painting the cardboard or wood insert with specialized paint. It comes in lots of colours.
Leave a comment and let me know what best thing you have repurposed and its new use.
Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, coaching you virtually using Zoom. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of physical activity to reduce clutter, in your home and office. She guides and supports you in managing your time. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Online courses are available to help instruct, coach and support your organizing projects. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.
For children of parents with hoarding disorder, the mess remains after their parents pass away.
Newsweek By Hannah R Buchdahl Jan 26, 2011
Greg Martin wasn’t sure what to expect when his mother died last May, forcing him to return to his childhood home for the first time in nearly 18 years. The house, located on a pleasant block in San Diego, had always been cluttered, but now it was virtually uninhabitable. “There were piles as tall as me, six feet or so,” Greg said. “Where there used to be floor, there were trails—a foot and a half high, so you’d be walking on stuff.” Greg was forced to navigate through piles of magazines, papers, and books, plastic bags filled with thrift-store purchases, expired medicine bottles and literally tons of clothes. The only “living space” was a small pocket by the front door, where his mother, a colorful and fiercely independent woman, had collapsed shortly before her death at the age of 83. Greg, who has taken a leave of absence from his job, expected that cleaning out the house would take six months. It’s now been eight—and counting.
It’s a scenario that’s all too familiar to children of hoarders, who are burdened with far more than funeral arrangements, probate, and grief. They must also deal with the overwhelming piles of stuff that a parent with hoarding disorder accumulated over the years—in apartments, in houses, in storage facilities, and in garages. The items themselves may vary, but for many children of parents with hoarding disorder, the result is the same: the unwanted inheritance of a whole lot of nothing.
Greg Martin’s mother lived in this home until her death last year. (milbetweenus.blogspot.com)
The inclination to hoard typically begins in the teenage years, but experts say it can also be triggered—or made worse—by brain damage, a traumatic life event, or depression. As the people with hoarding disorder age, the piles grow, gradually eclipsing everything else in their lives.
“I’m dreading the day when the house needs to be cleaned out, more than I dread the day that they leave us,” laments Teresa C. of Winnipeg, Canada. Teresa, like several others interviewed for this story, did not want to give her last name because the hoarding is a source of tension in her family. For Teresa, inheriting her ageing parents’ hoard is a worry for the future.
Hoarding is an extremely complicated mental disorder that generally involves the acquisition of too many items, difficulty getting rid of items, and problems with organization and prioritization. Few statistics exist related to hoarding, because people with hoarding disorder rarely seek or accept treatment. But shows like Hoarders have certainly raised awareness and triggered a tidal wave of anecdotal evidence to suggest the illness, often associated with obsessive compulsive disorder, affects millions—either directly or indirectly. Support groups and message boards are flooded with stories about the once-secret life of a person with hoarding disorder and their families, and the constant battles to get the person to understand the impact their illness is having on their loved ones. That impact doesn’t end with their passing.
“Nine times out of 10, it’s not the person with hoarding disorder who suffers; it’s whoever comes after them to clean up,” says a very frustrated Bill L. of Colorado, who’s been working to clean his mother’s home, located in a different state, for almost five years. (She suffered a stroke and has since moved into assisted living.) It took a dozen people, and eight Dumpsters, to clear out the first floor. Still to go: the second floor, a large attic, a basement, a garage, and a storage locker that Bill says should be easy, but may not be.
Often, people with hoarding disorder are the only ones who know or understand their system of “organization,” keeping stock certificates amid expired receipts or diamonds amid a pile of junk jewelry. For survivors, the stress and strain related to the search itself may simply outweigh the potential of finding any objects with financial or sentimental value. Bill plans to return to his mother’s house soon with a professional cleanout crew. “That will mean forgetting about recovering anything of value,” he says, “including possible family heirlooms. If we tried to continue sifting the hoard, we’d still be at it 10 years later [and] we’d be jobless, homeless, and insane.”
Cory Chalmers, owner of California-based Steri-Clean, which provides help finding hoarding-remediation specialists around the globe, estimates a typical clean-up can range from $5,000 to $20,000 and beyond depending on the severity of the hoard, conditions inside the home, and regulations relating to the disposal of electronics and hazardous materials. His crews occasionally recover items of value that may help offset the cost of the cleanup. But more often than not, it’s a simple, yet massive case of quantity over quality. “Most of the elderly people with hoarding disorder we work with all say the same thing: they’re saving this because it all has use, ‘I want to give this to my son, and this to my daughter, and this to my grandchild. [But] no one wants that crap,” he says, not without sympathy. “What they see as this big investment to pass on is really a big stress on families and not even worth it. A lot of them don’t want it. They’d rather just walk away.”
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Julie Stobbe is a Trained Professional Organizer and Lifestyle Organizing Coach who brings happiness to homes and organization to offices, in person and virtually. She has been working with clients since 2006 to provide customized organizing solutions to suit their individual needs and situations. She uses her love of physical activity to reduce clutter, in your home and office. She guides and supports you in managing your time. If you’re in a difficult transition Julie can coach you to break-free of emotional clutter constraining you from living life on your terms. Get started by downloading Tips for Reorganizing 9 Rooms.